New Friends

We recently met up with 4 other couples for karaoke and playtime afterwards. The main couple knew all of the other couples. One of the couples we had wanted to meet at another party months ago but we couldn't find each other. And the other two couples in attendance we had never met before. They are all a great bunch and we had a great time with them. There didn't seem to be too much clique-ness to the group where if they knew each other before, the newbies are left in the corner. We were involved the majority of the time.

When all of us ladies began to strip down at the house, the men followed suit, fairly quickly. And the majority of us stayed in the same area, making it a "ring-around-the-rosey" type deal...at least that's what it seemed like to me. At first, I started off giving head to Mr. Sunbuckus. Then the hostess came to blow Mr. Sunbuckus so I jumped onto the closest erect dick, which happened to be the husband of the couple we planned on meeting a few months back. When he got up to take a break, another husband (#2) quickly took his spot. After some missionary and cowgirl--not to mention a bit of 3-some action where I was getting fingered from husband #3 while giving a bj to husband #2--the wife of my first playmate (husband #1) of the night suggested a switch and I went onto the 3rd husband which included a blow job and ferocious pounding that ended in a very loud orgasm for him. I was looking for the host husband but couldn't find him. Mr. Sunbuckus and I ended the evening playing with each other in various positions. Husband #1 watched and had a bit more head from me during this time and wanted to jump in but Mr. Sunbuckus wanted me all to himself right then. In the end, I almost got to play with all of the men at the party. Perhaps next time!

We sent off "nice to meet you" emails a few days later. And it was very flattering to get an invite from one of the couples to meet again this weekend for fun times. However, it's close to that time of the month so we had to regretfully decline.

Back In the Saddle

Mrs. Sunbuckus here. I know it's been awhile. We're still in the LS but after a belated Halloween party in November, we've been on a hiatus due to the holidays, birthdays, and health reasons. Poor Mr. Sunbuckus has a pinched and inflamed nerve due to a bulging disc in his spine which has been giving him some major pain in his leg. But he's been working on relieving the inflammation through a shot, physical therapy, and the use of an inversion table.

Anyway, we were finally able to go to a party this past weekend, even though I wasn't sure I wanted to go since I'm still recovering from the flu. But we went anyways and had a great time. We met some new couples, saw old friends, and...well, it was a swingers party. Most of all, I'm glad we went because for the past few months, I've been feeling down about how I appear and if there's anything about swingers parties, they make you feel pretty darned desirable. I'm looking forward to trying to keep up our connections with other couples and make new ones. I feel that we haven't done a very good job at staying in touch with couples we've enjoyed.

Mrs. Sunbuckus: Gun Shy

The past two couples that we played with have been less than enticing. I knew that we would play with couples that wouldn't be very exciting but I didn't think we would actually play with couples that we may not really be attracted to! I think we just wanted to play and accepted whoever was interested...which may have not been a good idea. I actually found myself not at all attracted to the past two males in these couples and was not at all excited to kiss them. In all honesty, if I could have just closed my eyes and focused that their dicks were inside and I could pretend it was someone else, I probably would have. Luckily, with the last couple, I was fingered a bit too harshly and was able to stave off anymore playtime by claiming that I had "broke". Not to mention, that the last couple seemed to only be interested in playing with me...which I hated. I wanted Mr. Sunbuckus to play as well and when it seemed that the female half just wanted girl/girl play, I wanted out but I wasn't sure how.

Anyway, those two experiences have made me very wary in going out and finding another couple to play with...almost to the point of just wanting to swing with one of the couples that we've played with already or not swing for awhile. It's so hard to find couples that we're both interested in and who are interested in us...the both of us. I have often wondered if couples who have been in the LS for awhile realize this and decide to swing separately or if those couples are resigned to pass on swing opportunities. Since it seems that women are able to get more playtime, I would be more than happy to give Mr. Sunbuckus a hall pass to play with the wife of a couple (as long as they are okay with it) separately if I am not attracted to the husband. Of course, how do you politely tell a couple, "Hey, I don't find you attractive but our spouses are into each other, why don't we just let them have fun?"

We have another weekend of possible fun coming up. I really hope we have a good experience because if not, I am not sure how many more of these "bad" experiences I can take before I want to withdraw from swinging for awhile.

Double Penetration

Mrs. Sunbuckus here. This past Saturday, I told Mr. Sunbuckus that I had dreamed of having a double penetration that night. Well, he decided to ask Mr. B over to give it another attempt. I wasn't sure if I was really ready to try it. On one hand, I wanted to play with Mr. B but I haven't been in the mood for anal. I was also unsure of how the threesome dynamic would be because I had developed some feelings for Mr. B since the first threesome we had together. Would it affect Mr. Sunbuckus to have all three of us in the same room playing?

Well, Mr. B came over, we watched a bit of tv, showered, and retired to the bedroom together. We started with some oral, I would alternate between Mr. Sunbuckus and Mr. B. Then the usual threesome positions, oral on one male while I was being entered from behind.

Mr. Sunbuckus decided it was time to try for that elusive dp so he gave the lube to Mr. B while I straddled him. Once Mr. Sunbuckus was in my pussy, Mr. B entered me anally. It was a bit tough at first but once I had adjusted to his length, Mr. B began pumping me from behind while I tried to move back and forth on top of Mr. Sunbuckus. Eventually, Mr. B and Mr. Sunbuckus switched places (as well as a change of protection since he was going from ass to pussy).

Eventually, Mr. Sunbuckus wanted to have me ride him reverse cowgirl, with his cock in my ass and Mr. B in my pussy. I was dubious because I usually don't like reverse cowgirl but it ended up being my favorite dp position since my pussy was getting the action but I still had a cock in my ass, too. I enjoyed it so much that I could feel my pussy tighten and it brought Mr. B to orgasm. Afterwards, Mr. Sunbuckus and I stood by the bed while he pounded my ass and Mr. B fingered my pussy as Mr. Sunbuckus came to his own orgasm.

It would have been nice to have another round but Mr. B was tired and Mr. Sunbuckus is usually good for only one round so we had some small talk before Mr. B left.

Mrs. Sunbuckus: Dabbling in Polyamory

I know we haven't updated in awhile. We actually have been to a couple of parties which had some varying degrees of success and were interesting experiences. However, I came to talk about our little dabble in polyamory. I had been playing separately with Mr. B a number of times and we text everyday. I had begun to care for him as a friend...perhaps as something more. I knew that I had to make sure Mr. Sunbuckus knew and was okay before proceeding. He was wary but agreed that we could explore it bit by bit to see how comfortable it would be. Well, I felt it was necessary to make sure that Mrs. B would be okay with it and she was okay with it as long as no one feels threatened. I was more than willing to stop playing and even texting/talking with Mr. B if anyone was not okay. As it was expected with their open marriage, they were okay with it.

Well, it has come to our attention that Mrs. B is not very interested in creating a couple poly situation, which is what I think Mr. Sunbuckus was hoping for. He does not foresee very much or any future play with Mrs. B because she is very busy with her own boyfriend on the side, so tonight, he asked for me to stop playing one-on-one with Mr. B. And I am more than happy to do so. Surprisingly, I am actually a bit relieved that he has finally told me that he is out right uncomfortable with me playing separately with Mr. B and directly told me that he would like me to stop. Perhaps I have been waiting for him to be honest with himself and willing to tell me what he wants. But most of all...even though it was for a short period of time, being poly is hard.

I think quite often about both Mr. Sunbuckus and Mr. B throughout the day. However, splitting time between them is rough. When I am with Mr. B, I miss Mr. Sunbuckus and sometimes it is reversed when I am with Mr. Sunbuckus. I would want to be with both. I literally felt torn in two at times. Now I can slowly detach myself from Mr. B and not have to worry about being with two men at the same time.

I did want to make a separate post about my thoughts about polyamory, which I may still do eventually. Overall, I think it is theoretically the most open relationship a couple can have but exercising it in reality is very difficult and requires a lot of energy to maintain. How can one deny one's natural tendency to be so openly loving with others as well as receive and accept so much love? It is a very amazing feeling knowing how much love you are capable of.

But for now, we will be emotionally monogamous, as some of the great people at the swingers forum say.

Overwhelmed and Disappointed

Sometimes I get a bit overwhelmed by how often playtime can occur or juggling all of our new social connections and keeping them intact for possible future playtime. Which is kind of the reason why I wanted to attend the meet and greet at the club tonight. But I also get to go out and have fun...which I sometimes sorely need after having a stressful day at home. So, even though I sometimes feel like I have too much on my plate, I also get disappointed when fun times, even if it doesn't include playtime, doesn't occur. For example, last night, I was supposed to pay a visit to Mr. B, just to give him a massage with the possibility of playtime. Well, he seemed busy during the time that I was going to go over so going over for a visit never materialized. Then, today, I had thought about going out to the club to chat and dance with several of our swinger friends since it's always nice to dress up and go somewhere. But it didn't seem right to go out on my own without Mr. Sunbuckus to meet possible new couples. Then I wondered if maybe Mr. B would want to go together but he had considered staying at home, watching movies and inviting me over. Well, those plans also changed and he ended up going to the club with his lovely wife before she goes to work, which is for the best.

So, here I sit, complaining about my two different feelings. On one hand, I feel a bit spread thin and on the other hand, I feel disappointed that I'm not doing anything socially. However, I did think about how I have missed just spending time with Mr. Sunbuckus so hopefully tonight will work out for the best.

Mr. Sunbuckus: Date Night With Mrs. B.

Although I find Mrs. B to be attractive and personable, getting time with her, it turns out, is very hard. Her work schedule is odd, plus she has a boyfriend in addition to her husband whom she sees on a fairly regular basis.

So it was with great anticipation that I was able to secure a commitment from her to go out on a date with me. This after Mrs. Sunbuckus had two - TWO - dates with Mr. B.

Now, to get sidetracked a little here, as I told another guy who is fairly new to swinging himself, the men have to work twice as hard to get half as much pussy as women do to get twice the dick. I have come to accept that, and accept that, hey, I have a hot wife that other men want to have sex with. So if I am able to find the random woman who likes me, and I also like her, than I am going to try to make the most of that while I can. I am very lucky to have found that woman, and so early in our swinging experiences.

So, the day came upon me, finally. I again let Mrs. Sunbuckus dress me, and I think I ended up looking like either the prototypical swinger - sans big sunglasses and gel-ed up hair, or a bro. Either way, I think I came out looking ok. At least okay enough for Mrs. B to not recoil in horror. Which is success, I guess.

I proceeded to pick up Mrs. B at her place. She was dressed in a nice blouse and pants, a look I like on her. We proceeded to a unique restaurant that not even Mrs. Sunbuckus and I have been to together. As it turned out, the venue was awesome, but the food was sort of so-so, although Mrs. B enjoyed her steak. And, they let you pick your own steak knife! I have never been to a place where you get to pick your own steak knife! Of course, the main course, for me, was being able to spend some alone time with this gorgeous, fun lady, and getting to know her a bit more.

She told me about some powerful men that she had dated, her time in the Navy, all the places she has lived. In ten years, I believe they have lived in seven locations. I silently surmised that at this rate, Mr. and Mrs. B would be gone from our lives in under a year, which sort of made me sad inside. I got the distinct feeling that Mrs. B does not care that much for her current locale and as soon as certain things are finished, they are headed to other places to live. Of course, I can't fault them too much, they have no family here and came to the area for a specific purpose. And being ex-military, moving around often is normal for them.

After dinner, we walked over to the movie theater, and I showed her some of the places I am familiar with around the city. We watched Men In Black 3, which I found to be a decent movie. Mrs. B chose the next-to-the-back-row row of seats to sit in, and fortunately nobody else sat there. She said that if the movie got to be too boring, she would arrange the seats so she could lay down and spread her legs. I was silently hoping for the movie to be bad, but alas, we were both drawn in to the plot. Throughout the movie I held her hand and occassionally stroked and kissed her exposed arm.

After the movie, we had the walk back to the car. We took a slight detour through a courtyard that was all dressed up in white Christmas lights, a fountain, some waterfalls and little water channels. If I wasn't a swinger and she wasn't my wife, I'd say it was almost romantic.

Once we got back to the car we headed back to her place, where Mr. B had vacated and was spending the night with Mrs. Sunbuckus at our house. I thought sexytime would start, but Mrs. B was apparently still itching to do something, and suggested we play pool. Not wanting to make her mad, and knowing I should let her do something she wants to do, too, I agreed. We headed out to a bar that apparently had shut down permanently, so we instead had to go to her back-up bar.

At the bar, I quickly learned that Mrs. B is a pool master. She beat me soundly in two games, then played the third game with only one hand...and beat me soundly. Although I never claimed to be good at pool, I had fun nonetheless and got to have a beer, as well. We only spent about 30 minutes playing pool, then, finally, headed back to her place for sexytime.

I won't go into too much detail here. It wasn't as wild and crazy as a party can get. But we had fun. I licked Mrs. B's pussy and fingered it for a good long time. Then finished off with doing her missionary. Right after we finished, she had me turn out the light and we cuddled lightly in bed before she fell asleep. Since the bed was new to me, I had a little more trouble falling asleep, but eventually managed.

In the morning I awoke to a lovely sight: Mrs. B lying on her side, the blanket covering the front of her body but exposing the side on top. The light was coming in the window and shining off her skin. I lay and stared at her for a few minutes, just in awe that a beautiful woman like that would want to have anything to do with me. I whispered that I had a good time to her. I'm not sure if she was awake enough to hear me or not. I had to get to work at that point, so I got dressed and let myself out. Later on, Mrs. B would let me know that she had a fun time, and that she would be open to going on a date with me again.

Knowing it's been awhile since I've been on a date with anyone but Mrs. Sunbuckus, overall I felt like the night was a success. Of course, since some playtime was involved, most swingers would consider it a success. I feel Mrs. Sunbuckus and I are very fortunate to have such an open couple who wants to be with us in so many different ways. Playtime is quickly becoming not the raison d'etre, but the dessert on otherwise eventful evenings. Which is why it makes me a little sad knowing they will most likely move away in less than a year. Hopefully I can get a couple more date nights in with Mrs. B before they move on. As she said, "I'm a hard woman to pin down", to which I replied, "You're a good woman to pin down."