New Friends

We recently met up with 4 other couples for karaoke and playtime afterwards. The main couple knew all of the other couples. One of the couples we had wanted to meet at another party months ago but we couldn't find each other. And the other two couples in attendance we had never met before. They are all a great bunch and we had a great time with them. There didn't seem to be too much clique-ness to the group where if they knew each other before, the newbies are left in the corner. We were involved the majority of the time.

When all of us ladies began to strip down at the house, the men followed suit, fairly quickly. And the majority of us stayed in the same area, making it a "ring-around-the-rosey" type deal...at least that's what it seemed like to me. At first, I started off giving head to Mr. Sunbuckus. Then the hostess came to blow Mr. Sunbuckus so I jumped onto the closest erect dick, which happened to be the husband of the couple we planned on meeting a few months back. When he got up to take a break, another husband (#2) quickly took his spot. After some missionary and cowgirl--not to mention a bit of 3-some action where I was getting fingered from husband #3 while giving a bj to husband #2--the wife of my first playmate (husband #1) of the night suggested a switch and I went onto the 3rd husband which included a blow job and ferocious pounding that ended in a very loud orgasm for him. I was looking for the host husband but couldn't find him. Mr. Sunbuckus and I ended the evening playing with each other in various positions. Husband #1 watched and had a bit more head from me during this time and wanted to jump in but Mr. Sunbuckus wanted me all to himself right then. In the end, I almost got to play with all of the men at the party. Perhaps next time!

We sent off "nice to meet you" emails a few days later. And it was very flattering to get an invite from one of the couples to meet again this weekend for fun times. However, it's close to that time of the month so we had to regretfully decline.

Back In the Saddle

Mrs. Sunbuckus here. I know it's been awhile. We're still in the LS but after a belated Halloween party in November, we've been on a hiatus due to the holidays, birthdays, and health reasons. Poor Mr. Sunbuckus has a pinched and inflamed nerve due to a bulging disc in his spine which has been giving him some major pain in his leg. But he's been working on relieving the inflammation through a shot, physical therapy, and the use of an inversion table.

Anyway, we were finally able to go to a party this past weekend, even though I wasn't sure I wanted to go since I'm still recovering from the flu. But we went anyways and had a great time. We met some new couples, saw old friends, and...well, it was a swingers party. Most of all, I'm glad we went because for the past few months, I've been feeling down about how I appear and if there's anything about swingers parties, they make you feel pretty darned desirable. I'm looking forward to trying to keep up our connections with other couples and make new ones. I feel that we haven't done a very good job at staying in touch with couples we've enjoyed.

Double Penetration

Mrs. Sunbuckus here. This past Saturday, I told Mr. Sunbuckus that I had dreamed of having a double penetration that night. Well, he decided to ask Mr. B over to give it another attempt. I wasn't sure if I was really ready to try it. On one hand, I wanted to play with Mr. B but I haven't been in the mood for anal. I was also unsure of how the threesome dynamic would be because I had developed some feelings for Mr. B since the first threesome we had together. Would it affect Mr. Sunbuckus to have all three of us in the same room playing?

Well, Mr. B came over, we watched a bit of tv, showered, and retired to the bedroom together. We started with some oral, I would alternate between Mr. Sunbuckus and Mr. B. Then the usual threesome positions, oral on one male while I was being entered from behind.

Mr. Sunbuckus decided it was time to try for that elusive dp so he gave the lube to Mr. B while I straddled him. Once Mr. Sunbuckus was in my pussy, Mr. B entered me anally. It was a bit tough at first but once I had adjusted to his length, Mr. B began pumping me from behind while I tried to move back and forth on top of Mr. Sunbuckus. Eventually, Mr. B and Mr. Sunbuckus switched places (as well as a change of protection since he was going from ass to pussy).

Eventually, Mr. Sunbuckus wanted to have me ride him reverse cowgirl, with his cock in my ass and Mr. B in my pussy. I was dubious because I usually don't like reverse cowgirl but it ended up being my favorite dp position since my pussy was getting the action but I still had a cock in my ass, too. I enjoyed it so much that I could feel my pussy tighten and it brought Mr. B to orgasm. Afterwards, Mr. Sunbuckus and I stood by the bed while he pounded my ass and Mr. B fingered my pussy as Mr. Sunbuckus came to his own orgasm.

It would have been nice to have another round but Mr. B was tired and Mr. Sunbuckus is usually good for only one round so we had some small talk before Mr. B left.

Mrs. Sunbuckus: Dabbling in Polyamory

I know we haven't updated in awhile. We actually have been to a couple of parties which had some varying degrees of success and were interesting experiences. However, I came to talk about our little dabble in polyamory. I had been playing separately with Mr. B a number of times and we text everyday. I had begun to care for him as a friend...perhaps as something more. I knew that I had to make sure Mr. Sunbuckus knew and was okay before proceeding. He was wary but agreed that we could explore it bit by bit to see how comfortable it would be. Well, I felt it was necessary to make sure that Mrs. B would be okay with it and she was okay with it as long as no one feels threatened. I was more than willing to stop playing and even texting/talking with Mr. B if anyone was not okay. As it was expected with their open marriage, they were okay with it.

Well, it has come to our attention that Mrs. B is not very interested in creating a couple poly situation, which is what I think Mr. Sunbuckus was hoping for. He does not foresee very much or any future play with Mrs. B because she is very busy with her own boyfriend on the side, so tonight, he asked for me to stop playing one-on-one with Mr. B. And I am more than happy to do so. Surprisingly, I am actually a bit relieved that he has finally told me that he is out right uncomfortable with me playing separately with Mr. B and directly told me that he would like me to stop. Perhaps I have been waiting for him to be honest with himself and willing to tell me what he wants. But most of all...even though it was for a short period of time, being poly is hard.

I think quite often about both Mr. Sunbuckus and Mr. B throughout the day. However, splitting time between them is rough. When I am with Mr. B, I miss Mr. Sunbuckus and sometimes it is reversed when I am with Mr. Sunbuckus. I would want to be with both. I literally felt torn in two at times. Now I can slowly detach myself from Mr. B and not have to worry about being with two men at the same time.

I did want to make a separate post about my thoughts about polyamory, which I may still do eventually. Overall, I think it is theoretically the most open relationship a couple can have but exercising it in reality is very difficult and requires a lot of energy to maintain. How can one deny one's natural tendency to be so openly loving with others as well as receive and accept so much love? It is a very amazing feeling knowing how much love you are capable of.

But for now, we will be emotionally monogamous, as some of the great people at the swingers forum say.

Overwhelmed and Disappointed

Sometimes I get a bit overwhelmed by how often playtime can occur or juggling all of our new social connections and keeping them intact for possible future playtime. Which is kind of the reason why I wanted to attend the meet and greet at the club tonight. But I also get to go out and have fun...which I sometimes sorely need after having a stressful day at home. So, even though I sometimes feel like I have too much on my plate, I also get disappointed when fun times, even if it doesn't include playtime, doesn't occur. For example, last night, I was supposed to pay a visit to Mr. B, just to give him a massage with the possibility of playtime. Well, he seemed busy during the time that I was going to go over so going over for a visit never materialized. Then, today, I had thought about going out to the club to chat and dance with several of our swinger friends since it's always nice to dress up and go somewhere. But it didn't seem right to go out on my own without Mr. Sunbuckus to meet possible new couples. Then I wondered if maybe Mr. B would want to go together but he had considered staying at home, watching movies and inviting me over. Well, those plans also changed and he ended up going to the club with his lovely wife before she goes to work, which is for the best.

So, here I sit, complaining about my two different feelings. On one hand, I feel a bit spread thin and on the other hand, I feel disappointed that I'm not doing anything socially. However, I did think about how I have missed just spending time with Mr. Sunbuckus so hopefully tonight will work out for the best.

Mrs. Sunbuckus: Two Parties In One Night

Mr. Sunbuckus and I have been interested in trying out one of the swankier parties in town. They are supposed to be "exclusive" with a hefty cover charge. Well, Mr. B was telling me about how he had heard that a lot of the people at those types of parties were cliquish and snobby. Mr. E was telling us that he had heard good things about those parties so it was a vote for each side. Well, I had my reservations but we had to see for ourselves.

Judging from the couples that had RSVP'd for the event, a lot of them were what I call really pretty people. Young, beautiful, fit, tone, in shape, big breasts...I was getting mighty intimidated. Even though Mr. Sunbuckus kindly called me "the hottest woman" at the club the night before, this was an entirely different crowd. I have pretty big body issues and was nervous. Mr. B had informed me that he was going to another party that night and said we would have more fun there. A few hours before the party, I asked Mr. B if it would be okay with the host if we crash his party if our swanky party turned into a dud. We got the A-OK so we had a firm back-up plan...although I wasn't certain about seeing Mr. B for the 3rd night in a row. I didn't want my playmate to get tired of me!

Well, the party started at 5 but we arrived at 7. The host said that there were going to be about 200 people there but only a quarter of them were there when we got there. Later, it was more believable that there were 200. With that amount of people and the venue being held at a big "mansion" there wasn't going to be enough parking along the street so they had everyone park at a nearby school and a limo would shuttle party-goers back and forth between the parking lot and house party. I was impressed but with such a big "donation" you should get something for your buck, right?

Driving through the neighborhood, we kept guessing which house we would stop at until the limo finally halted. We walked up the driveway and through the garage while one of the hosts, an ex-porn star, asked us our nationality (he meant ethnicity). He was trying to get a "good mix" of people to come to the parties.

As we walked into the house, through the garage entrance, doors were appropriately labeled "restroom" or "playroom". We toured the house and as silly as it sounds, I thought it wasn't very big considering it was touted as being 12,000 square feet of play area! And it didn't help that some of the house was closed off while a big hallway was set up for photographs.

There was an attractive, petite Asian woman from L.A. that we introduced ourselves to. We later saw her with an older gentleman...not someone I was interested in playing with. We didn't chat with her much because we were still looking around and getting our bearings. We had brought along our "fuck bag" and had to find a suitable place for it. When we reached the backyard area, a lot of bags were placed against the house perimeter, which is where we eventually placed ours. We got some complimentary drinks (soda and water) and sat near the hot tub to see if anyone would be at our "level." There was a table full of older people just chatting within their group. There were two younger couples chatting at the hot tub. Another two couples near the drink station. And various other groups that consisted from 2-4 couples in each that stayed within their limited group. There were single couples, like us, milling around. They seemed to be the ones that were more at our "level". All of the other groups that had paired off were mostly younger (probably our age, to be honest), buff (for males), thin with big breasts (females), and seemingly stand-offish. I did see some men look our way for maybe a second but that was it. I had put on my bikini but kept my shirt and skirt on over it because I just felt like I couldn't compete with the overwhelming amount of attractive women there. Mr. Sunbuckus wanted me to dress down but I told him that I would on one condition, if I could find three women at the party that was also dressed down but looked like a normal woman. I know it sounds harsh because I'm sure a lot of those pretty women are nice but they sure made me feel awful for having the body that I did have after having three children and losing a lot of weight.

We went up to a couple who were standing around by themselves like us. They consisted of an older woman with a younger man. She was in very good shape and wearing just her bikini. She offered to show us some moves on one of the pole platforms. I thought she was going to do a lot but it was just some basic stuff so I wasn't really impressed. We chatted a bit and found out they were just there to look. Another couple came by and joined us. They seemed friendly and I thought the woman was attractive, though certainly pretty tall. However, her husband was a bit abrasive in attitude or personality because I was not at all attracted to him.

Nothing seemed to be happening so, I had the idea of just playing with Mr. Sunbuckus in one of the playrooms to see if it would spark anything...like our first house party where people at least gathered around. I gave him a blowjob but the room was dark so we moved to another room. A couple came in and they were talking about whether they could join in or not so I stopped long enough to invite them into bed. Soon enough, I felt a pair of hands on my ass and then the male half fingered me a bit before placing himself between my legs to give me oral while I was still doing oral on Mr. Sunbuckus. Eventually, he put on a condom and went inside me for a few minutes. I'm still unsure if he finished or not but it was quick lived. The female half of the couple didn't play because her master, who was not present, forbid her to play with males. After they left, we also left to walk around some more. We noticed that one of the other rooms had about 2-3 other couples playing, but each separately...same room sex. Mr. Sunbuckus wanted me to ride him and I gushed all over him quite a lot because it was dripping off of him and down my legs as well. During that time, Mr. Sunbuckus offered to play with a woman who was waiting for her partner to return. She declined very hastily as if the idea repulsed her. Another couple across from us on a couch was engaged--the female blowing the male. Mr. Sunbuckus wanted me to go over and offer to suck him as well but I was very hesitant. I have to be very horny and very comfortable to perform oral on another male other than Mr. Sunbuckus. Eventually, we left to clean up ourselves. Upon walking around, we met with the couple that played with us for a few minutes and traded names and numbers. Shortly after, we declared the party a bust and returned to the garage area for the limo to take us back to our car.

While we were there waiting, there was the male half of a couple standing around that seemed familiar. Eventually, he approached us and asked us if we had been at the club the night before. We introduced each other and talked about the party. They had attended several of the parties before and they were "fun" but this one just didn't go anywhere. With the right amount of time to chat with them, I could be interested in playing with them in the future. Then when the limo arrived to drop off some new attendees and shuttle us back to the school, the couple that we were waiting to show up arrived (we saw that they were attending through one of the swingers' websites). We formally introduced each other but went our separate ways. We had already let Mr. B know that we were going to his friend's party and didn't want to prolong the agony/frustration from the first party.

I had teased Mr. B through text that I would give him oral once we arrived, making him think that Mr. Sunbuckus was telling him that. Yes, the two parties could not have been any more different in atmosphere, location, and the ratio of attractiveness of party goers but after introductions, there was already some action going on in one of the rooms and kitchen and Mr. Sunbuckus pushed me and Mr. B into one of the rooms so I could make good on my tease. Mr. Sunbuckus even had his playmate, an older single female so everyone was happy. The host wanted to take pictures of us playing as long as no faces were in the photos. After about an hour of playing, the men needed to rest and it was getting late in the night. Mr. B needing to work in the morning and Mr. Sunbuckus and I having to wake up at a decent hour to pick up the children the next day so we said our goodbyes and thank yous to the hosts and headed home.

Mr. Sunbuckus had not cum during Friday night's playtime and as well as during the 2nd party so we played once we got home and he had an explosive cum before we fell asleep. Although we had quite playtime the past two nights, we still had our two dates coming up before the weekend ended...Mr. B and I on Sunday night and Mrs. B and Mr. Sunbuckus on Monday night.

Mrs. Sunbuckus: Couple Number 4

Mr. Sunbuckus and I have planned quite the Memorial Weekend. First off, we headed to the club (non-swinging but LS friendly) to celebrate a LS friend's birthday and meet with a couple we wanted to play with but had met at the last party we went to. I was pretty interested in the husband at the party. He chatted with both of us and was attractive to me. About a couple of weeks later, we traded phone numbers and we've texted and I even teased him with a bit of sexting. The only question was whether Mr. Sunbuckus and Mrs. E would hit it off.

I admit, I almost didn't recognize Mr. E when they walked into the club. The last time we saw them, he was only wearing boxers and a silly jester's hat. He looked scrumptious and more in line with what I am usually attracted to, tucked in button down shirt, sleeves rolled up, glasses, and hair combed just right to make you want to run your hands through it.

For the two hours that we were there, we chatted most of the time with Mr. and Mrs. E. I wanted to do a some dancing with several people (Mr. Sunbuckus, Mr. E, and Mr. B) but it just wasn't to be. When it was agreed that everyone wanted to play, we left to go to our place. Mr. Sunbuckus and Mrs. E left in our car while I went with Mr. E to help direct him to our house. We took a lot longer to get to the house than Mr. Sunbuckus and Mrs. E because Mr. E liked to drive slowly. But I still enjoyed conversing with him on the way. I do have to say, for the majority of our playmates, I have enjoyed the company of the married men because they are able to hold a conversation with me that doesn't always have to be about sex.

Anyway, I wanted to go straight to the bedroom when we got home, but we ended up chatting some more before retreating to the bed. Mr. E and I were the first to get undressed but I suppose that's to be expected...I seem to be more enthusiastic about getting down to playing right away.

I can't really tell you what exactly Mr. Sunbuckus and Mrs. E did...I think he did some oral on her and mostly missionary. To be honest, I was too busy with Mr. E to really take note. Mr. E performed oral on me before I went down on him. He seemed to really enjoy the blowjob I give, much to Mr. Sunbuckus' disconcertment. Not because of feeling discomfort that I was performing oral on Mr. E but by Mr. E's facial expression. Mr. Sunbuckus even had to stop and ask if Mr. E was okay because I guess it looked like Mr. E was having a stroke! All I know was that I could hear his moans and gasps and I haven't had that kind of reaction from another man while performing oral so it was a nice ego boost to know that I may actually know what I'm doing when giving a blowjob!

Eventually, we got to the main course, which is what I am always after. After doing a few standard positions, he put me in one that I usually don't do, or none of my playmates have done with me yet. Apparently, it is his favorite position because he can go really deep. I don't know about that...it felt good sometimes but other times, it was average. But he really enjoyed it and when it came time for him to cum, it seemed that he went on for about a minute, grunting and shaking. It was the most dramatic cum I have seen and heard from a man. Sure, I may have helped prolong it by grinding my hips toward his pelvis and squeezing his cock but I looked over to Mrs. E and she seemed a bit disturbed with her own husband's reaction! I asked her if he usually does that and she said no. Later on, Mr. Sunbuckus confided in me that he didn't cum because Mr. E's explosive cum reaction made him lose his hard-on.

We all were lying in bed naked and talking. Mr. E was hoping for a second round after some recovery time but Mrs. E was tired from her long day at work and we had to cut playtime short. In all, I thought it was fun and maybe we'll do separate rooms next time so make sure Mr. Sunbuckus and Mrs. E get their completion. I'm curious to see if I can get Mr. E to have a similar reaction again!

Date Night With Mr. B

Mrs. Sunbuckus here, obviously. I hardly think Mr. Sunbuckus would go out on a date with Mr. B...unless it was to hang out and pick up other women.

Mr. B is a big movie watcher and we have talked about going to see a movie together. This past Saturday, we were finally able to go out to movie and a dinner. I dressed up, made myself as pretty as I knew how to (I don't know how to apply makeup so I do what I can), and we were off. I think I did a pretty good job at knocking him off his feet because for the first time in my life, I heard someone use the words amazing and stunning to describe me!

Since he got off work later than he wanted, we were running late and decided to see the movie first and then go to dinner afterwards. I was a bit nervous about how it would be to actually go out on a date. I'm not really the best conversationalist or knowledgeable about world events so I was afraid that he might be bored but we did pretty well. I guess it helped that he is pretty good at just shooting the breeze about anything and that we've had our moments of just talking before and after playing.

It was both thrilling and odd to be sitting in the theater with him. Thrilling because it had been quite awhile since feeling that "date" feeling while at the movies. Odd because it wasn't Mr. Sunbuckus next to me. I wasn't sure if Mr. B wanted to hold hands or touch during the movie so I waited. Of course, he was busy scarfing down nachos at first since he hadn't eaten since lunch but once I was holding the box, he started to caress my leg and I snaked my hand over to his lap. I guess I was more bold than he thought I would be or what he was even used to. I admit, I like to rub Mr. Sunbuckus' crotch through his pants at the theaters...and it was just natural for me to do that with Mr. B. Later, I was surprised to learn that he hasn't had anyone do that with him before. Throughout the film, we held hands and caressed each other here and there. Mr. B later informed me that the male sitting next to him kept looking at us because I was rubbing him. How naughty is it that I relish in that??

After the movie, we walked around the nearby shops and restaurants because Mr. B's leg was hurting a bit. We chatted about the movie and whether we should eat or not. (Can you believe it? He claimed to have filled up on nachos??) He had originally planned on taking me to a Japanese restaurant and that's where we ended up going. We made it just in time before last call. They even put out some candles for our table since the overhead light wasn't working. I sat next to him because it was freezing cold and I needed some extra warmth. I was literally shivering before I switched over to his side. We decided on two sushi rolls and an appetizer of calamari. Very yummy but I didn't want to get too full before playing so for once, I had to fight my desire to waste not-want not and leave some sushi behind. Sushi! It still bothers me to have left those two pieces on the platter....

We headed back to his place. I brought in my purse and my mystery backpack that I had brought along. I had planned on tying him up and teasing him relentlessly so I brought along our bed restraining system as well as some extra condoms, lube, an extra pair of clothes, toothpaste and a toothbrush in case I stayed the night. I had asked Mr. Sunbuckus ahead of time if he was okay with me staying the night. He seemed okay with it. I was glad to get his permission because it had been one of my longtime fantasizes to fall asleep and wake up to a different man and see what he would do.

After some show and tell (I had expressed interest in seeing his uniforms) and some light chatter, we got down to business. He was really ready to go after feeling the wetness of his underwear. We didn't really do any crazy positions like in the past but I was amazed at how many times he was able to keep going. Three times that night before falling asleep and one more in the morning. He had told me in the past that the most he has cum in one night was 6 times. I was trying to see if we could reach and pass that benchmark but it was late at night and he had worked all day.

He did finally figure out the position that makes me make moan the loudest. Unfortunately, it's not his favorite position but did say that he liked seeing the reaction I was giving him from doing it. We didn't use the restraining system though because I wasn't sure how willing he would have been. He had recently played with a playmate that was really interested in dominating him and he resisted that idea so I didn't want to push it.

Two things I wanted to point out...I had a bit of a hard time falling asleep. Even though I had thought about how nice it might be, it was actually harder for me to relax than I thought. Even though I enjoy Mr. B's company, I still ached to have Mr. Sunbuckus next to me.

The second thing...I've come to the conclusion that I enjoy seeing a man on top of me, thinking that he is the one in control but in actuality, I'm the one with the power over him to make him cum. It was quite pleasurable seeing Mr. B struggling not to cum while I was doing what I could to make him climax.

Boyfriends and Boy Toys

Mr. Sunbuckus and I came to an arrangement so that I would explore the realm of having a boyfriend or boy toy on the side. I was a bit intrigued with this idea when we found out that Mr. and Mrs. B were on the lookout for their own girlfriend/boyfriend. However, I did see firsthand from them how easily it was for Mrs. B to get a boyfriend whereas Mr. B has yet to get a girlfriend. I was also concerned a bit when it seemed that Mrs. B would meet with her boyfriend almost everyday before work and play with him at least once a week. When does Mr. B get his time with Mrs. B? I didn't want to do that to Mr. Sunbuckus.

I have waffled back and forth between a boyfriend or a boy toy as well as to whether or not I should even be getting one at all. One of the reasons why I was wishy washy was because I wasn't certain I wanted to expend emotional energy on someone other than Mr. Sunbuckus. Yes, it's thrilling to think about having a male attracted to me to wine and dine me. However, I don't want it to take away from what I need to give to Mr. Sunbuckus...he comes first and I didn't want him to feel like a second fiddle. Second, two men that I was attracted to either expressed no interest or did but not enough to really make me feel like I wanted to meet him. Whereas, there have been a few men that contacted me but I wasn't interested in the slightest. It has turned out to be harder to find a boyfriend than I thought. And a lot more time and work finding one that works. Third, I had considered requiring friendship with the boyfriend/boy toy but have thought about changing the "screening" process...instead of getting to know them first and then playing, reverse it. I was telling Mr. Sunbuckus that I should see if they are fun in bed first and if they are, then explore that. And if not, then put them in the reject pile. Of course, attraction would still have to be a two-way street.

Mr. Sunbuckus has expressed concern about single males in the past and present and I'm sure he will complain about them in the future, too. I didn't really have a problem with them but after experiencing meeting and playing with a single male...I know exactly what he means and why he was so skeptical. He is a man, I probably should have listened to him but I had to learn for myself. Mr. Sunbuckus doesn't like single males because he is afraid that they will dog the female for playtime all the time. Although the single male that I toyed with did seem to ask to see me a lot, he didn't ask to play every time. But, yes, I did get turned off from his asking everyday to see me. Granted...he had a friendly face but he wasn't at all what I wanted in a boyfriend/boy toy. If he had been more attractive to me, perhaps I would have liked the attention more. But as it was, I did not like it. For this reason, Mr. Sunbuckus is more comfortable if it were a married male that I used as a boyfriend/boy toy. And who do we know that is a married male and also looking for a girlfriend? Mr. B of course. However, I have not mentioned anything about us being in that type of relationship other than that Mr. Sunbuckus would prefer that arrangement.

So, will I be doing the boyfriend thing? I don't know. It's a very fun thought but I like couple swapping so that we both get playtime and we can connect with each other during that time. There is something to be said about sharing your spouse so intimately with another woman and knowing he is having a fun time.

To be continued....

Couple's "Exclusivity"

On the swingers forum, I had read a thread about how some couples get jealous. Not that their partners are having sex with other people but that their play couple(s) are having sex with other couples other than them. At the time, it did seem silly but now that we have a touch more experience I can say that I think this happens with those that are new to the LS who may still be letting go of society's pre-conceived notions that sex equals love or at least a level of exclusivity.

One of the reasons why I was super interested in going to the third house party this past weekend was to see our first couple that we played with playing with other couples/individuals. I wanted to make sure that I wasn't developing those odd jealous exclusivity feelings with them. And I wanted to make sure that I wasn't getting too attached to Mr. B since we had been playing exclusively with each other the past month. Thankfully, I am not. In fact, as I stated before, since we had played so often, I think I have that new-play-toy feeling out of my system with him. I think it also helps that I have played with a few other men since and found that Mr. B is not as enjoyable as I thought.

Mrs. Sunbuckus: Third House Party

I suppose our third house party was not really "third time's the charm." I had fun but most of the time, I was worried about Mr. Sunbuckus getting his playtime in....

Originally, we had heard of the party from the weekend before while we attended our 2nd house party. We usually don't go out 2 weekends in a row so I assumed we wouldn't be able to make it. Not to mention, the possibility of being broken for the weekend. And we had Easter Sunday with family.

Well, Mr. and Mrs. B were attending the same party and some of the couples (4 of them in fact) from our 2nd house party were attending this party. I thought it would be nice to see them again and do some "networking". I do love the social aspect of the LS since Mr. Sunbuckus and I don't really have that many friends and would like to get to know others more, even if we don't play with them.

As it was getting closer to Saturday evening, I asked our sitter if she was available. She was not. Then I figured I'd shoot in the dark and ask my parents to see if they would mind staying late to watch the kids. We would get them ready for bed and then leave. All they had to worry about was putting them to bed and then just be present in the house as they slept. Surprisingly, they didn't mind and actually didn't ask any questions either. Quite odd...perhaps they are aware of something but don't want to say. Either way, it was nice of them to stay the night so Mr. Sunbuckus and I could go out.

Since we had our house swap on Tuesday, and I had playtime with Mr. B while Mr. Sunbuckus did not, I wanted to make it up to him. Secretly, I hoped that we could find new playmates. However, Mr. Sunbuckus is just a bit too shy and only played with Mrs. B at the party. He told me he tried to get something going with Mrs. C but she didn't seem interested. I had hoped that he would expand to someone completely new but he didn't.

During the night, I played with Mr. C (the male part of our 2nd play couple). He was very fun and had me squirting while he was giving oral and fingering me as well as when I was on top. It's nice to enjoy being with a male who loves being drenched from a woman.

Then, while I was watching Mr. Sunbuckus and Mrs. B play, Mr. V (the male host of the party) came up from behind me and started to rub and kiss me. He had asked me if I was having fun. I like to rub my backside on whoever is behind me so I was doing that. Eventually, he rubbed my tits and pussy while I was stroking his cock. Mr. V is on the older side and I admit that I wasn't really into that. However, I was appreciative of the attention so I was willing to kiss, stroke, and do a little oral on him. He did have a very thick cock at the base but not so much at the tip. It was almost cone shaped to me. Fleetingly, I entertained the thought of how his cock would feel inside me but I couldn't mentally get past the age difference. I felt bad that I had gotten him so riled up so I offered to let him cum on my ass. Which he did. Mr. and Mrs. V are very kind people. I was surprised to hear from Mr. Sunbuckus that he wasn't interested in Mrs. V because I found her very attractive and if I was a male, I would want to be with her.

Later, I was in the hot tub by myself when a male, Mr. D, came in. He told me that Mr. Sunbuckus had invited him to join me in the hot tub. I had met Mr. and Mrs. D a bit earlier in the night but not too much. They seemed very nice but I wasn't sure if they were interested so I had gone off to rest and play again. After fondling and kissing a bit in the hot tub, Mr. D asked if I would mind if we go use one of the bedrooms. I was definitely game and went to make sure Mr. Sunbuckus was okay with it. To my dismay, he was sitting in a chair and not playing. I was hoping to find him having fun with a playmate. I felt a bit guilty for having more playmates than him and hesitated. After all, I had agreed to the party so he could get some playtime. I hadn't expected to do much or any playing myself.

Mr. Sunbuckus seemed okay so Mr. D and I went to find a room. He was very excited and went down on me immediately. His technique is similar to Mr. Sunbuckus' until he started to finger me at the same time which was rough and aggressive. Although different and exciting in the way that rough sex can be exciting, sometimes the roughness can get to be too much for it to be fun after awhile. Luckily, he had to take a break and go to the bathroom. Mr. Sunbuckus came into the room and I decided to give him some oral while waiting. Mr. D came back and seemed to have some trouble getting hard. I gave him some oral but it didn't work. We tried kissing but it didn't work. I mounted him, hoping that maybe grinding on him would do something. He moaned and groaned but it just wasn't working. I felt bad that we didn't get any playtime but sometimes things happen. I think he played earlier and he might have had too much to drink. He was very nice though and gave me one of the nicest compliments of the night. He said that I was the hottest woman at the party. The other compliment came from Mr. C when he said that I was close to the top of his "fun list" because I was able to make him cum (he says he doesn't cum with every woman he plays with) and I was a great kisser and we seemed to really be compatible.

After the house party, Mr. Sunbuckus and I returned to the club we visited when we first started to explore the LS. It was hopping at the club and it was interesting going in there, knowing that we might be more hardcore "swingers" than some of the ones in there considering how we just came from a private house party, engaged in swapping, and witnessed many orgies with our own eyes. I was surprised that Mr. Sunbuckus pulled into the club but he explained that he wanted us to fuck without anything worry of my parents hearing us (which we would have had to think about if we were to go straight home and fuck.) We sat around for a few minutes to soak in the atmosphere, went to the "couples only" room to do some oral and sex, then we moved onto the "see through" room where couples can go in a "secluded room" but onlookers can watch through the 1 way window. I found it very liberating to know that we didn't really have any hesitation doing it in there. A few months ago, it would have been a big leap to have sex in that room, hearing and knowing that there were other people on the other side of the window while we fucked. Now, it just seemed "normal" since we have gone to a few parties and had onlookers while we play. I wonder how out of the box it was for those on the other side to be on the viewer side of the window. Was it their first time watching another couple have sex? Did they get turned on? I liked to imagine that some of the males rubbed themselves a bit while watching. After Mr. Sunbuckus creamed me, we left and went home.

I have really enjoyed meeting so many nice people so far. I even kind of felt that Mr. Sunbuckus and I knew more people at the party than maybe Mr. and Mrs. B even though they had more experience.

So, you're probably wondering why I didn't play with Mr. B. Two reasons: 1. I had recently played with him just that week. 2. I have to be honest and say that I am a bit tired of him. We have been playing with each other about 1-2 times a week since meeting. I wanted another playmate to explore and enjoy. Plus, I have come to the conclusion that although he has the stamina, he doesn't make me as wet and excited as I thought he would. Perhaps I am not as attracted to him as I thought? Perhaps I feel self-conscious about my body when I play with him since he maintains himself so well (and gets worried when he gets little stretch marks on his arms from working out--thus making me wonder what he must think about mine?) Who knows. I do know that I want to have a break from playing with him for awhile.

Mrs. Sunbuckus: Our Second House Party

Mrs. Sunbuckus here. Ever since our first house party and finding that the couple, Mr. and Mrs. B lived so close by and played separately, I have been playing roughly 1-2 times every week since. Personally, I had been getting a little burned out and wanted a break. I wanted to reconnect with Mr. Sunbuckus so I had considered playing one last time this past Saturday and then not playing until our next party on the 21st of April.

I had intel that there would be a private house party after a meet and greet in the east side of town. Originally, we did not plan on going to the meet and greet because it was so far away and our first meet and greet wasn't really as fun as compared to our house party experience. (As Mr. Sunbuckus says, why go to a meet and greet when you can go to a meet and fuck?)

The person who had passed the intel onto me is considered a unicorn (single female) but she has been a bit flaky at times. Well, the morning of the meet and greet, we received an email inviting us to a house party from a couple we haven't met before but one that we had expressed some interest in but never contacted them. Mr. Sunbuckus and I were more than happy to skip the meet and greet to go. The only thing they asked was that we bring a dish for everyone to eat. How exciting...but I was also getting nervous as the time got closer. Were we going to be able to come out of our reserved shells to hit it with other couples? Would we even attract any interest from others? And would we be attracted to anyone? I shared my thoughts to Mr. B and he told us to "Be active" and "Be brave."

The dress I had originally bought to wear to the meet and greet, I decided to wear to the party anyways, even if it was a bit too dressy for the occasion. After all, when am I going to get another chance to wear it anytime soon?? As it turned out, it was quite the hit with the males at the party. But we'll get to that.

We are pretty punctual people so we arrived right on time but didn't really want to be the first couple to "go in" since we didn't know anyone. Well, after sitting in the car for a few minutes, we bit the bullet and went in anyways. We were able to chat with the hosts for a while before anyone else arrived and it was nice. At first, I didn't find the male host to be particularly attractive but he was very nice and as I got more comfortable with him, I found that I wouldn't mind playing with him if he asked.

Then, other couples started to pour in. It was close to about an hour after the "starting time". Personally, I was hoping to start playing about an hour in but it was just at that time that couples were just arriving. Argh. Mr. and Mrs. C, the couple that invited us, arrived and I was a bit disappointed in the male half, again. And it felt like Mrs. C wasn't friendly at all to me at first. She was mostly interested in chatting with the wife-host since they are good friends. Probably about 9:30, the majority of the couples had arrived. In all, there were 7 other couples besides us. One couple, I recognized the male half from our first house party. I remembered him because I had a slight interest in him the first time but I thought he was a single male so I kind of just dismissed him. Imagine my surprise when I found out after the party that he was part of a couple. We did talk with him and his wife but I wasn't quite feeling it for the male half after chatting with him a bit. He seemed dazed, in my opinion. His wife seemed nice, after she talked to us for a little bit. At first, I thought she was a bit stand-offish until she stopped to talk to us.

The majority of us stood around the kitchen island, chatting and laughing. I found it very pleasant but I think Mr. Sunbuckus was bored. He wanted to know when we would start playing. I enjoyed the conversation and company. I wanted to play too, especially since I knew we didn't want to get home too late but I wanted to forge some kind of friendship with these couples so we could be invited to other parties in the future.

Eventually, some couples went to some of the bedrooms to play. However, about 4-5 women went out to the backyard patio to talk. Mr. C, the male half of the couple that invited us to the house party, started to rub my back. I had noticed that he stood to my left and kept looking at me. But I wasn't sure how to really break the ice so I kind of let him take the lead in conversation and touching. I put my back to him and began to rub my bottom against him to show him that I was interested. I could feel his erection through our clothing, which was stimulating. Another reason why I faced away from him though is so I could look at Mr. Sunbuckus and make sure he was okay. I felt guilty that he wasn't playing with anyone yet. And so, that's probably how it went on for at least 20 minutes, Mr. C and a few of the other males fondling and rubbing me, wanting to play. I had to hold them off, telling them that I wasn't going to play unless Mr. Sunbuckus also had a playmate. Mr. C encouraged Mr. Sunbuckus to go out to the back patio to talk and convince the other women to come in. While he was away, one male kneeled down behind me and wanted to lick my asshole. Another male came to rub and nibble at my nipples. And Mr. C did a little oral, nipple play, and fingered me. While he was fingering me, we were all in the same room as the mini-orgy (3 couples) going on in the bedroom, the not-really-standoffish woman was watching Mr. C finger me and was telling me to relax and squirt...to concentrate on what he was doing. Well, that did it and I squirted right there, standing up. That was very new for me, since I had only experienced squirting while riding on top of my male partners. Mr. C was very ecstatic and really wanted to play right then and there. I told him that I still wouldn't play unless Mr. Sunbuckus was playing too. He tried to put me at ease and say that he was probably in the other room getting his brains fucked but I told him to make sure by looking outside. Sure enough, he was outside with the other women. Mr. C pressured Mrs. C to play with Mr. Sunbuckus so we could play.

Looking back, I feel bad about how that went down. I didn't want anyone to feel pressured. Even Mrs. C commented about how she felt pressured to play and I told her that we can slow down if she wanted. Well, somehow, we all got onto the bed and started playing. Mr. C and I started missionary and I tried to show him that I was more than willing to hold my legs in the air for him. He was nice enough to ask me what my favorite position was...I responded that as long as a cock was inside, I was happy. So, we did missionary and doggy style. However, he doesn't have the stamina that Mr. B has and had to ask a few times if I could be on top so he could rest. I was more than happy to oblige and soon enough, I was squirting all over him. Throughout the time we were playing, I would notice that the males that were rubbing on me earlier kept popping in to watch, as if they wanted their turn. Thinking about it now, I probably should have invited them over to play and maybe I could have engaged in a MFMM. Mr. C and I rotated between positions again and eventually, he came. We chatted a bit and fondled while Mr. Sunbuckus and Mrs. C were still playing. After awhile, Mr. C wanted to play again so he put on another condom and we went for round 2. When he needed a break again, I was on top and squirted several times. Mr. C seemed to really enjoy all the wetness on him. However, he didn't cum again with me. I think he was tired and needed a break from playing. So, once Mr. Sunbuckus and Mrs. C finished, we all sat or laid on the bed chatting. Mr. Sunbuckus took note of the time, and decided we should get going. I was a bit disappointed that we wouldn't get to play with anyone else but hopefully we will get invited by the hosts again for their next party.

I had a lot of fun at the party and I didn't feel any jealousy at all. Of course, maybe I was too busy having my own fun to really see what Mr. Sunbuckus was doing. I do know he enjoyed Mrs. C's triple D breasts. Okay, maybe I was jealous...but not of what Mr. Sunbuckus was doing but of Mrs. C's big breasts. I wish I had such beautiful breasts! I know Mr. Sunbuckus would love them, too. But that's another topic that I've written about and one that I go back and forth on....

I can't wait until our next house party or our next playtime...which is tomorrow night!

Why Women Love the Lifestyle

The saying goes, "You drag your wife by the hair to a swingers club, and then you have to drag her by the hair to get her out." And from more than one source, we've heard that women run the lifestyle. So, why is it that women embrace it and love it?

Plain and simple...it reminds us that we are beautiful and attractive, no matter our size, shape, color, lumps, and bumps. Even the most beautiful woman has something that she is insecure about and being in the lifestyle, there is always someone that will find them attractive...some more than others but bottom line, there's at least one other man out there that will find you attractive enough to boink.

Many of us are women who have gone through some kind of body transformation--be it child birth, surgery, weight gain/loss--and we want to be reaffirmed that we are still physically attractive. I know it sounds vain but when we are in a relationship, the compliments we receive from our significant other tends to feel forced or expected. When compliments come from a stranger, out of the blue, it seems more genuine. For example, Mr. Sunbuckus will compliment me whenever I take extra care to pretty myself up. As much as I love and appreciate the compliments, it almost always feels like he feels like he has to say them. In contrast, I can think of three separate occasions when I have been complimented unexpectedly and they are ones I will remember for a long time. One was when I was lying down, propping up my head up and gazing down at my partner and he suddenly said, "You're beautiful." Another time, was when Mrs. B (from our play couple) said, "[Mr. Sunbuckus] wants to play bareback with his gorgeous wife." And the third time was when Mr. B and I were talking about the hickeys I had given to him during our playtime. He was commenting on how those at work out tease him about them and he blame them on a vampire but then mentioned that he might slip up and say that a gorgeous Asian woman had left them on him. Those are the moments when compliments feel most sincere.

In the past, I have always questioned whether I was physically attractive. I have been obese most of my life and was never approached by a boy in school to go out on a date. In fact, Mr. Sunbuckus and I met online and fell in love. So, I have always wondered if I was able to physically attract anyone. Truth be told, I have even posted a picture of myself on Craigslist, just asking men if they found me attractive, nothing more. Most of the responses were reassuring but it didn't last very long and I would question myself again because pictures are one thing but in person, when the whole package is in front of someone is a different matter.

I am still insecure in how I appear. There are so many parts of my body that I am ashamed of that I can't list them all. I know that Mr. Sunbuckus will bed me because I'm his wife but it is encouraging to know that at least one other male out there is willing to play with me several times, even after he has seen the stretch marks, saggy skin, and extra baggage that my body bears.

Hall Pass

Mr. Sunbuckus has given me a hall pass to play with Mr. B, whenever and how ever many times. Of course, I would still ask to make sure he is okay with it and see what restrictions he places on me. I am a bit surprised that he would give me a hall pass but I also think some of it stems from the fact that Mr. B is married, is respectful, and doesn't play as often as his wife. From what we gathered, she (Mrs. B) goes on dates with her boyfriend at least once a week, sometimes meets him for coffee before work on some days, and overall, plays 5x as much as Mr. B does. So, the caring part of us kind of makes us want to watch out for our new friend and try to get him some playtime. Of course, that gives me extra playtime so I'm trying to find someone for Mr. Sunbuckus to have extra playtime with since Mrs. B is too busy with her boyfriend play most of the time to do a full swap.

Anyway, Mr. B hadn't played since the last time I went over to tease him and had him cum on my stomach. And I felt really bad for having Mrs. B come over last night for our FMF threesome when it was supposed to be his night out. So, this afternoon, I directly told him that he would need to tell me if he wanted to play, as well. It couldn't always be me! He asked if I could come over at 9. We had tentative plans with another couple coming over but I didn't think they would come over since the wife wasn't feel well. I told him that I could be available. I asked permission of Mr. Sunbuckus and Mrs. B and proceeded from there. Once the kids were in bed, I took a shower and started to get ready. As I was showering, I felt some nervousness on my part. Before, I had gone with the intention of just teasing, with no full on sex. Tonight was different and I had a bout of cold feet for a minute until I started thinking about what I should wear. I had already planned on wearing a short skirt and going pantiless. I was considering going braless as well but I don't like how I look without one on. When I was almost ready to go, Mr. Sunbuckus was excited and gave me a quick "goodbye" pumping before leaving.

When I got there, Mrs. B had already left for work and Mr. B was watching an SNL episode. I rubbed his shoulders a bit and nuzzled his neck. We chatted for a bit and right when he was going to lead me to the bedroom, Mrs. B came in and joked that Mr. B was being a slut. She had forgotten to take her medicine. I gave her a small kiss before she left again. Then Mr. B laid on the bed, requesting a massage. I was sitting on top of him, moving my hips against his ass while I rubbed his back. I got him to take off his shirt and it was more enjoyable for the both of us. Eventually, he turned onto his back and I was really able to tease him by getting completely naked and grinding my pussy on his cock through his shorts. It may have been torturous for him but he had a big smile on his face throughout.

Eventually, I removed his shorts and placed my bare pussy on top of his cock. He seemed worried that I was putting him inside me without a condom but I reassured him that just because we were naked didn't mean he was going in just yet. He agreed and relaxed while I rubbed, stroked, kissed, sucked, and teased him all over.

After about 30-45 minutes of teasing, I let him pound me as hard and fast as he could. Surprisingly, we did do several positions but kept going back to doggy and he lasted longer than I thought he would. Of course, he was trying not to cum and wanted to see how long he could last. Perhaps another time, I wanted him to cum and he did...it shot all the way from my bum to the top of my right shoulder. Even he was surprised.

He cleaned me up and we laid in bed and chatted for awhile. I mostly listened and rubbed his body to get him excited again. He asked me if I wanted to play again but I told him I was teasing him for the next time. If I knew he didn't have to wake up early for school and myself for the kids, I probably would have been more willing to play again that session but I had already been there for almost 2 hours. I wanted to get home to Jason and feel him fuck me bareback and to reconnect and reassure him.

It was definitely nice to be away from the house and go out on my own for a little while. A nice reminder that I was more than just a mom, especially after the night/day that I had. And I owe this little piece of "vacation" to my wonderful husband, Mr. Sunbuckus.

Finally, a FMF Threesome

Mrs. Sunbuckus here. Two weeks ago, I had my MFM threesome, so ever since, I've been wanting to return the great gift that Mr. Sunbuckus gave me and have him experience a FMF threesome. As it turns out, MFM threesomes are easy to come by, FMF...not so much. However, did we luck out with our first play-couple or what? They play separately and were more than willing to be a part of our FMF threesome as well! Of course, I can't always call on A to be the 2nd female for our FMF romps so I've been looking into other single females that may be willing in the future.

Originally, I wanted to surprise Mr. Sunbuckus with his FMF threesome. He had expressed a fantasy of coming home from playing basketball to find me and another woman playing with each other and him joining in. Well, Mondays just aren't convenient for our playmates. I had tried to set up a FMF for Monday but the single female I had asked never got back to me about it. Luckily, A was able to keep true to her word about playing the next night. I decided to let Mr. Sunbuckus aware of the upcoming event so he could prepare himself.

A was early and we talked a bit while Mr. Sunbuckus was in the shower. I had hoped that maybe she would surprise him by jumping into the shower with him naked but she didn't seem keen on the idea once she saw the size of the shower. I guess that's just my own fantasy about being joined in the shower by a playmate. We both took off our clothes but left our bra and panties on. I had on a matching red set while A had a matching purple set. A brought over one of her toys and wanted to use it on me once Mr. Sunbuckus was out of the shower and ready to play. I was game but I wanted the night to be about Mr. Sunbuckus so after a few moments of trying out the toy, we got down to brass tacks.

Just as I was sandwiched between two men during my MFM threesome, we had Mr. Sunbuckus in between myself and A. We both suckled and kissed him. Her hand was cupping his balls while my hand would occasionally stroke his cock. I probably got tired of this part of the foreplay sooner than anyone else. I was ready to see Mr. Sunbuckus really enjoy himself. Eventually, we tried different tactics. Mr. Sunbuckus orally pleasing A while I was giving him a blowjob. Both A and I lying down on the bed while Mr. Sunbuckus ate one pussy and then the next. Mr. Sunbuckus finger banging me and then A and making her squirt.

We finally got around to doing one of the positions that Mr. Sunbuckus wanted to do...one woman riding his cock and the other riding his tongue. A wanted the cock first so I rode his tongue first. Eventually, we switched and I took the initiative to kiss and fondle A while we were on Mr. Sunbuckus. I knew that he had wanted this in particular so I tried it, even though it was hard to grind on his cock while doing so.

Mr. Sunbuckus even did me doggy style for awhile but I wanted him to finish with A so he did her doggy on the bed. I mostly laid on the bed watching them but I knew that Mr. Sunbuckus would enjoy it even more if I also kissed A while he was fucking her so I did that. After several moments, he came and we chatted just a bit before A left to go home.

Now for the nitty gritty...was I jealous at any point? I'd be lying if I said no. I felt twinges of jealousy every so often, mostly when Mr. Sunbuckus and A were kissing deeply. But I could see how much fun he was having, how much pleasure he was having and this was something that I was offering him and letting him do. We were experiencing this together and it would be something that we will always talk about in the future. Mostly, I enjoyed knowing how much more enjoyable this experience was for him in comparison to the FMF threesome he had in the past, behind my back. According to him, it only involved a blowjob and fucking one girl and then the other. I certainly hope this FMF threesome was better than that one.

One thing for sure...sex is sex. And you know what? Sometimes it does look funny and sometimes it looks sexy.

Playing Separately

The past two nights, Mr. Sunbuckus has allowed me to go to A and B's house alone to tease and give a little oral to B while A was at work. This was a pretty big step for us and even B told me that he was surprised that Mr. Sunbuckus allowed me to go over. Of course, the first night was a surprise to B (none of us told him that I was going over) and I probably spent more time driving around finding their house than actually spending time there teasing him.

All day yesterday, I had concocted an idea for the guys. Since I was broken, I wouldn't be able to offer anything but anal, which Mr. Sunbuckus and B enjoy anyways. I had the diabolical idea to have A over for Mr. Sunbuckus to play with. If he finished the deal with her, I wouldn't give up the ass to him. Then for B, he and A would play and if he finished with her, I wouldn't go over to offer the ass. Unfortunately, A was too busy for such a plan which was okay. At least the idea was a fun one for me to fantasize about all day.

Well, Mr. Sunbuckus wanted me to go over again tonight to give B oral. I loved the idea of teasing him again and everyone was okay with it. So, after Mr. Sunbuckus fucked my ass and came inside during our nightly shower together, I went over and teased B. He wasn't going to let me get away so easily though...he proceeded to get me naked and wanted to do anal. Thankfully, I had asked Mr. Sunbuckus about this beforehand and he only wanted me to perform oral and to tease. I had no problem letting B know that he couldn't. He laughed it off but really wanted some release so I let him cum on my stomach. Too bad he couldn't have saved it for A! Anyway, we talked a bit afterwards but it was getting late so I went home.

It was very gratifying to come home to Mr. Sunbuckus. Going out late at night and acting clandestine was fun but my heart is definitely with Mr. Sunbuckus and I couldn't wait to snuggle with him in our bed. I don't mind chatting with my partners but I can see how getting to know your partners outside of sex can diminish the "taboo" feeling of using them for just sex!

The Single Male Phenomenon

It was a single male that helped propel us into the lifestyle, so I didn't really care whether or not we played with them but I was open to it. I knew Mr. Sunbuckus preferred to play with couples so I blocked both single males and single females from our profile when we first began. Then, I chatted with a woman (who oddly seemed to be pimping out her single male playmate), who convinced me to open our profile up to single males. There was quite the response in just a few days. It made Mr. Sunbuckus very uncomfortable so I closed our profile to them but left it open to single females.

During that brief time, one of the males particularly caught my eye because of his experience and ease at chatting with us. Although I wasn't really interested in playing at first, the respectfulness, open-ness, honesty, and patience that he extended us made me want to give it a try. Not to mention, at the time, I still wanted my taste of having a MFM threesome. However, Mr. Sunbuckus was still very, very, very reluctant to have a single male over.

Well, ever since our MFM experience and night at the club while dancing with the other males that were part of a couple, I'm not really interested in single males. I admit, it's nice getting the attention but they can be aggressive if they want to be. Whereas the males that come from a couple have a woman to go home to and pester. That's not to say that I don't enjoy getting a message just asking me how my day is. I think that's just common friendliness which everyone needs in their life. But Mr. Sunbuckus is afraid that a single male will ask to play often. Let me be clear, I have not had this experience with the single male I have kept in contact with but I can see how he can feel that way.

I know that there are tons and tons of single males in the lifestyle and keeping our profile open to them would create too much static in our mailbox but sometimes, I do feel it can be a bit discriminatory to block them but not single females, even if they are "rare". Because in the end, I am still with Mr. Sunbuckus. I love him and we are experiencing all of this together. I would like to try whatever is out there with him and each person is able to offer something that no one else can, their unique selves. That's why one MFM/FMF/MFMF/MFFM experience isn't enough. It is always a completely different experience when you include a brand new person/couple into the mix.

First Time at a Vanilla Club: Mrs. Sunbuckus' Perspective

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First MFM Threesome

It finally happened! Our first MFM threesome! And it was sort-of a surprise to me. We had invited the male half of the couple that we played with at the party to come over last night. But we didn’t hear back from him until almost 12 hours after we sent the invite (good thing we asked early in the morning). I, Mrs. Sunbuckus, thought that maybe something had come up or he just wasn’t interested even though he had expressed his desire the past two nights to come visit. We did our usual nighttime routine once the kids were in bed…I blogged, we exercised then showered. However, something was odd and while I was in the shower, I had this sneaking suspicion that Mr. Sunbuckus had something up his sleeve. Perhaps he was going to surprise me and have our playmate, B, come and join me in the shower. After I exited the shower with no unexpected visitors, I began to wonder why that feeling wouldn’t go away. As I was drying my hair, I heard a knock on the door…just as I was thinking about how there would have been if B were coming over. My internal conversation stopped and exclaimed, “No way. Is this really happening?” As excited as I was to experience a MFM threesome, I was a bit relieved that we hadn’t heard back and might have a relaxing night. On top of having a somewhat stressful day with the kids, I was feeling insecure about my sexual abilities and wasn’t sure how good it would be for B. So when I realized that we were actually going to do a MFM threesome, I did freak out internally about how I was going to handle it...but I pushed it away as fast as I could so I could enjoy the night.

Mr. Sunbuckus approached me from behind as I was finishing up in the bathroom and I was nervously but ecstatically teasing him that I knew he’d pull something like this on me. Since I had nothing else to do but go out and greet our guest, I walked out to our living room just wearing my nightgown. Neither Mr. Sunbuckus or B knew that I wasn’t wearing underwear, which added to the upcoming excitement of the night. We chatted for a while on the couch, Mr. Sunbuckus on my left and B on my right. I let my arm rest against his and we rubbed each other’s legs and arms. It was getting to be almost 11 and I knew both of my playmates had to work the next day so I basically said, “Let’s go to the bedroom!”

B admired our big king-sized bed and enjoyed the comfort of it. I laid down next him and he immediately lifted my nightgown up to squeeze my ass. I noticed that Mr. Sunbuckus was cleaning off the Laz-Boy chair in the room and I told him that he should join us on the bed. So, there I was, right in the middle of two men and I loved the feeling of it. Being desired by both and knowing that both were going to fuck me that night was intoxicating.

It seemed like it was a long time when we played but I think in all, it was only about 70 minutes. There was a lot going on during that 70 minutes. At one time, I was giving a blowjob to one while stroking the other. Being taken doggie style and giving oral to the other partner. Attempting our first double penetration, which didn’t turn out but there’s always next time. Getting eaten and fingered while sucking the other cock. B ended up cumming three times, one with vaginal sex, one with anal sex, and the last with a handjob. It was nice to be able to make him cum by a handjob because I’ve never been able to do that with Mr. Sunbuckus and it worried me that maybe I don’t know how to handle a cock. Perhaps B was just ready to cum but at least I was able to do that for him with my hand. And, of course, Mr. Sunbuckus finished creaming my asshole at the end.

With our full swap and threesome under our belts, I am even more convinced that we are in the right mindset to swing. Both times, I found the sex fun but not intimate. Only when I was kissing Mr. Sunbuckus did I feel that I was having a special, loving moment with him. I hope that if he ever feels insecure or jealous that he knows that no matter how much fun I am having with other playmates, my bond and love for him is what makes the sex we have together unique and unmatchable by any others.

Throughout the entire experience, I was having a blast although there was one time where I was worried about being able to take care of two men at the same time. Perhaps I would get worn out? But I didn’t. Another concern I had was my lack of being able to multi-task. I had a hard time giving oral at times because of the pounding I was getting…it was affecting my stability and rhythm. In all, I can’t wait for the next MFM threesome but I think I owe Mr. Sunbuckus his own FMF threesome next!

House Party 2/25: Mrs. Sunbuckus' Perspective

Mrs. Sunbuckus here. Mr. Sunbuckus and I just attended our first house party (a birthday party for a single female) this past Saturday night and I thought it would be a great idea for both of us to write about our experience and thoughts on it since it was such a big step for us in the lifestyle.

For the past few weeks, I haven’t been feeling particularly excited about sex or the lifestyle. Maybe it had to do with the fact that Mr. Sunbuckus had been bothered by all the messages we received from single males so we had to hide our profile from single males on the swinging site…thus I didn’t get that surprise email from someone else stating that they found me attractive. That always boosts your self-confidence and it makes you feel aroused knowing everything is so sexually charged when it concerns the lifestyle. And that in turn makes me want to fuck like crazy.

Or perhaps it’s the fact that I didn’t feel close to Mr. Sunbuckus the past few weeks due not exercising with him every night because of an ankle injury. Or perhaps we just weren’t communicating enough. In any case, with the combination of AF visiting and not connecting emotionally with Mr. Sunbuckus, we just hadn’t been having as much sex as we had before and I knew it was affecting us as a couple and personally. However, a couple of days before the party, we cleared up what was the matter and made things better. And although we had considered “saving” ourselves for the house party by abstaining from cumming while having sex, the desire proved too great to save it for Saturday night.

The big night came upon us and the theme was lingerie so we headed to the local adult toy/clothing store and picked a red/black corset for me and a non-hammock lingerie underwear for Mr. Sunbuckus. We arrived not too long after the start time of the party so we could change into our “party clothes”. I had originally planned on wearing the corset with the accompanying garter straps and stockings with maybe no underwear but when we found that the straps still dangled too low to be comfortable, we decided to forego the garter straps and stockings and just wear the corset and a thong. Although I’m not comfortable exposing my legs, I got used to it after a while since many females were baring a lot of skin as well.

I have always been self-conscious about many parts of my body. From the stretchmarks on my arms, my funny looking deflated breasts, my saggy tummy full of battle scars, thick jiggly thighs to my varicose veins I wasn’t sure how confident or comfortable I would be in the lifestyle. But if I get anything out of being in the LS it is that we all have something that is not attractive and something that is. And that cellulite, jiggly-ness, puffy-poofy-saggy skin doesn’t just affect me but a lot of women and that it’s normal. Looking at touched up photos on the internet, tv, magazines…not real but brainwashes us nonetheless. And I am grateful for the reminder that women come in all shapes and sizes and that someone will find them attractive and sexy no matter what. It’s quite awesome.

Well, when I walked up the stairs clad in just my corset and thong, I was greeted by the birthday girl herself, wearing a babydoll lingerie dress. I was taken aback that she was hugging me right away and thought momentarily that she was mistaking me for someone else. As it turns out, she hugged everyone that night which I thought was very sweet and a very warm way to welcome everyone. I thought she was very attractive and her friendliness made her more attractive. Before the party, I had thought about surprising Mr. Sunbuckus with a little show and kissing the birthday girl in front of him. But I didn’t want to seem too forward or give her the wrong idea that I was bi or bi-curious.

Mr. Sunbuckus had brought in our little case of alcoholic drinks to help loosen us up. But truth be told, it made me flushed and my heart race. And it didn’t make me feel any more comfortable. Besides, I had read on the forums that swinging is something you should be able to do sober. If you can’t do it unless you’re buzzed or drunk, then it’s not right for you at this time.
For about three hours, I’d say that we were bored. I certainly was. I would yawn sometimes and wonder when things were going to get “wild”. We went up and down the tri-level home several times. Sometimes we’d poke our heads into the bedrooms to see what was going on and usually nothing except for people lining up to use the bathrooms. And we were wondering when they were going to do the “who can eat pussy the best” contest. Mr. Sunbuckus was interested in trying it out and I wanted to see if I would be able to see him do that. During that span of time, we did talk to the male half of a couple. He seemed nice and somewhat interested but we play as a couple and since the female half of the couple was too busy chatting with someone else, I just felt that it was a pleasant way of passing the time. Mr. Sunbuckus did ask him his opinion about my ass and had him pat it which was nice but I admit, I was being a bit shy and self-conscious.

We went up to the roof-top patio a couple of times. The view was great but I didn’t particularly like hiding out up there even if it was warmer outside than it was inside. Mr. Sunbuckus was interested in what was going on on the roof again so we went up the second time but after that, I didn’t want to go up again due to the spiral staircase. After coming down from the staircase the second time, a woman was standing in the hallway and remarked to me, “I could eat you up all night.” I was surprised and flattered while Mr. Sunbuckus quipped, “Go ahead.” I thought she was a single female but as it turned out, she was part of a couple.

There was more general boredom/uncertainty on our part for a while. I noticed that a male half of a couple that we met at the meet and greet from last month was rubbing very suggestively on another female. Sure enough, we saw them head upstairs. Within ten minutes, there was a full on orgy going on in one of the bedrooms. I think Mr. Sunbuckus thought it might unnerve me. It actually did not. I had watched porn videos of orgies before. I will say it is different when you see actual people do it in front of you and they aren’t all pretty and thin or choreographed. There were heads and limbs bumping into each other. There were comments and conversation between participants and watchers which I felt was very nice. There were even some “Hey! So-and-so is here!” And people would stop for a second or two to say hi. I thought it was very neat how they were so friendly and comfortable.

We headed downstairs again and probably another 15 or so minutes, those in the orgy started to come down one by one, some dressed up, some missing some clothes, and some a bit mussed looking. But what I really enjoyed was how there was a general camaraderie among them. There was laughing, friendliness, and sexual and non-sexual touching that just made me hope that one day, Mr. Sunbuckus and I would reach that level of being comfortable in our own group (or non-clique) and enjoy ourselves like they did.
During our wanderings, the same woman from earlier kept coming up to us and commenting about how she liked the corset or some other feature. At one point, I think she mentioned how she wanted to taste me and Mr. Sunbuckus was all for it, again. I said I would be okay as long as she was interested. She proceeded by saying, “You want to know if I’m interested?” and gently pushing me against the wall and kissed me a few times. Then she said, “Yes, I’m interested.” But she excused herself and I can’t remember why. The kiss was definitely different but mostly I remember how surprised I felt at how her lips felt thin and tasted smoky since she was a smoker.

Eventually, I think Mr. Sunbuckus was aching for something and asked that I give him a blowjob in one of the bedrooms. I acquiesced and after a time, we began to perform oral on each other. My ass was in the air and a few bystanders were commenting on my ass. I even heard a male ask Mr. Sunbuckus if he shared but I didn’t hear the response. Thinking about it now, I think it would have be nice to feel his hands run down my ass cheeks while Mr. Sunbuckus was licked and sucking at my clit. Although I thought we might start fucking, we heard about how they were signing up participants for the “who-can-eat-pussy-the-best” contest at that very moment and Mr. Sunbuckus was anxious to get down there. So we stopped and rushed downstairs. In actuality, I think Mr. Sunbuckus was excited to get me on the list to get my pussy eaten by other men while I was interested in having him doing the eating. As it turned out, we didn’t sign up for anything.

Meanwhile, when we got downstairs, the same woman from earlier came up to me again and asked to nibble on my breasts. I gave her the go-ahead…unfortunately, it escaped my mind to warn her about my breastmilk and I think she had a gulp. I feel bad about that because I don’t think she was expecting it. She had her husband come over and talk to us but Mr. Sunbuckus was really interested about the contest so we didn’t stay to talk.

I’m probably remembering the sequence of events incorrectly but at some time, we saw this couple and two others upstairs in their own orgy. Mr. Sunbuckus and I were in the room watching with one couple to our right and a male to my left. I was actually attracted to the male half of the couple that was watching (we’ll call him Peter Saarsgaard because that’s who he looked like to me) but most of the night, I thought he was single for some reason and he was attached to the female half of a couple. Anyway, while we were watching the orgy, I was aroused and started to kiss Mr. Sunbuckus deeply. The male to my left had been glancing at my ass and rubbing himself. After a short while, I could feel his hands lightly fondling my ass. I have always fantasized about being fondled by strangers and this was just a tiny taste of it. And I loved it. I purposely invited him to touch me some more by pushing my bum toward him and shaking it just a hint. And he got the hint. Eventually, I was so turned on that I reached behind me, while still kissing Mr. Sunbuckus, and started to stroke his cock through his underwear. Then I took it out and stroked it. Eventually, I turned around to face him and was surprised that he was one of the men that I thought was attractive but maybe a bit out of our age range. He was very excited and proceeded to kiss me a few times…sometimes aggressively. I wanted to play some more and be the center of attention between Mr. Sunbuckus and this older male but Mr. Sunbuckus wanted to check out the other bedroom. I think maybe Mr. Sunbuckus was a bit overwhelmed. I felt bad for leaving the male behind and not going any further but I think he was happy with what he got at least.

Sometime later, we headed downstairs again and the female from earlier, we’ll call her A, approached me and asked if her husband, B, could touch my breasts. I agreed and she brought him over. He reached into my corset and fondled my breasts. I admit, even though it was arousing, I was self-conscious about my lack of assets in comparison to the ones that A had. B asked if we were playing tonight and I answered in the “maybe”…I think Mr. Sunbuckus was saying something else. B seemed a little disappointed but not much and I could see his eyes wander. I noted to A that Mr. Sunbuckus had something to ask her. Mr. Sunbuckus was reluctant so I asked for him and asked her if she wanted to go down on me. She said she wasn’t good at it but I didn’t really care to be honest. I wanted to give Mr. Sunbuckus a sight that I knew he was itching for…to watch me get eaten. Personally, I don’t really get off of receiving oral pleasure. I prefer to be finger fucked or fucked by a cock. There’s real pressure and real urgency when being penetrated and I love that. With the right speed and angle, give me a good fuck any day.

Well, she led me upstairs and we went into a bedroom where she took off my thong and proceeded to go down on me. B ran his hands all over my body while I gave Mr. Sunbuckus a blowjob. It was awesome. I loved being in the center of things and feeling so many hands on me because Mr. Sunbuckus, A, and B were rubbing me everywhere. I was extremely turned on. I noticed that B was kind of left out so as I stroked A’s hair with my right hand, I reached for B’s cock and decided to stroke him while giving Mr. Sunbuckus his blowjob. I wasn’t really aiming to be fucked but Mr. Sunbuckus noted to B that I wanted his cock. Well, that wasn’t really the truth. I did want to be fucked but I wasn’t certain if it was by him. But I was open for anything…especially in the heightened aroused state that I was in. B took Mr. Sunbuckus’ place while Mr. Sunbuckus started to fondle and finger A’s pussy. At some time, B asked Mr. Sunbuckus if he could taste me and Mr. Sunbuckus was game. Eventually, Mr. Sunbuckus was eating A’s pussy while B ate mine. Mr. Sunbuckus pointed to the condoms he had brought out and B put one on and started to fuck me.

While I was getting banged, I saw Mr. Sunbuckus finger and pleasure A very much. At the time, I didn’t feel much about it except that I was glad that Mr. Sunbuckus was enjoying himself. Eventually, Mr. Sunbuckus was fucking A while B was fucking me. A full swap! There was even another male and female fucking next to us in the same bed…three couples fucking on one queen sized bed. How awesome!

Throughout the whole thing, I did have that realization that yes, this is what those swingers are talking about. This is just sex. I still felt all of this love for Mr. Sunbuckus and exhibited this by seeking out his hand or arm to stroke him to make sure things were still okay. And sometimes, while B was fucking me, I would actually imagine that it was Mr. Sunbuckus that was fucking me. Of course, feeling his intensely smooth skin and much thinner frame, I knew it wasn’t but to make myself feel a bit more comfortable, I had to pretend that it was Mr. Sunbuckus on top of me.

Eventually, everyone finished and got dressed. We were very surprised to find out that the majority of the people at the party had left and we were actually one of the last ones to leave! We thought that the night was young since it was only 1 am when we finished and the party was set to last until 2am.

We had a great time experiencing our first house party and first full swap. Unfortunately, it was overshadowed by the discovery that my new phone that Mr. Sunbuckus had given to me for Valentine’s Day was stolen while we were playing.
As for my emotions and feelings…I didn’t really feel jealousy during the swap; however, once it was over and during the times when I wasn’t worried or upset about the loss of my phone, the comparison questions started to creep into my head. Was she a better kisser? Was she a better lay? Does Mr. Sunbuckus wish I had big tits like she did? On and on and on. But I think one of the things I was bothered by the most was how much pleasure she actually received. I know Mr. Sunbuckus is fabulous at finger banging but I haven’t really squirted or gushed in that manner. I may have gushed a few times on Mr. Sunbuckus while I was on top but never finger-banged. And I was jealous that she was able to experience such pleasure from my husband when I couldn’t. Was something wrong with me? Am I doing something wrong? Will Mr. Sunbuckus start to resent me for not reacting in such a manner?

Anyway, I am looking forward to our next house party. And I think on our next outing, perhaps I will put out a general invitation to all attendees that if they wanted to fondle me, they could without asking…but with Mr. Sunbuckus’ permission, of course. Because being touched and fondled was my favorite part of the night.