Easing Our Way Into the Lifestyle

Mrs. Sunbuckus and I have been having pretty good sex lately. Mrs. Sunbuckus started giving me wet and sloppy blowjobs on a regular basis, which really gets my motor running. In return, I asked that she allow me to lick her pussy while I finger it hard. She is really loving it and the sex has been phenomenal.

More recently, around Christmas, we have been playing with some light bondage. Restraints, a little ass-slapping, blindfolds. She really got into and we have been fucking like bunny rabbits.

It was during this time that she confided in me she would like to try having sex with two men at once. She then confided that she had already picked out who she wanted the second man to be. There was only one condition: he wanted to have sex with her alone first.

Well, that was a little too much for me, so I put the kibosh on it, somewhat to Mrs. Sunbuckus' dismay. A few days later, I suggested that she might be interested in the Lifestyle. She did a little bit of research before, but seemed sort of skeptical.

As it turned out, a week later we were able to arrange a kid-free night. We went out to dinner, and then had no immediate plans. I had suggested we try a swinger's club earlier that week, so we went over to a club. It was dark inside, smelled kind of like smoke that you can never get out of a place that people used to smoke in all the time. But it was very open and there was a hot woman with big tits dancing around on a pole. I figure she worked there. Anyway, it happened to be a Friday night. There were a few couples, but otherwise it was single guys. We decided to spend the night just kind of sitting, relaxing, and figuring out what we're comfortable with.

Eventually, we made our way to the "Showroom" of sorts, the couples-only room. There were a few other couples in there. One of them was being shy, but the other two couples were getting naked and fooling around with each other. So we went in there with them, sat on a side couch, where Mrs. Sunbuckus could hardly hold herself back and started sucking my cock right there! Now, being newbies to the whole swinging thing, Mrs. Sunbuckus had not dressed for success, wearing jeans and a nice blouse. I did finger her pussy a little, but the jeans made it hard. So I said that next time we come, she should wear a nice, tight dress. The other couples that were playing together were busy spreading their legs, giving blowjobs, getting their pussies licked and the ladies were sharing the cocks between them, but only by blowjobs.

After the club, we went home and fucked hard and I had an explosive orgasm inside her.

Mrs. Sunbuckus really seemed to get off on having people watch her. I, on the other hand, at least for the first time, was a little creeped out by all the single guys peering through the door and in the peepholes trying to get a glimpse of everybody having sex.

Well, after that experience, Mrs. Sunbuckus signed up for a swinging lifestyle membership site. We started getting emails from all sorts of people. We settled on attending a meet and greet last weekend. Mrs. Sunbuckus wore a sexy party dress, with garters and stockings, and no underwear! If we hadn't been at a restaurant, she would have flashed people her ass all night. We met some very nice people, and it seems most of the people in the Lifestyle are very nice. It also seems that those in the Lifestyle are older. Most are above the age of 40, and a good number are over 50. I can understand. After all, at an advanced age, most people become more comfortable with their body, they know what they like. They also usually have their kids out of the house and are not tied up with the grind of getting kids to school and everything else that comes with kids and life in general.

We did meet a nice couple, an older Irish man and his Japanese wife. Mrs. Sunbuckus and I would not have placed this man at more than 35, but he revealed that he is 50! Shocker, even his wife, although attractive, appeared older than him. In retrospect, we probably should have invited them to our hotel room for some playtime. But since our night at the club, I had wanted to try another swing club, so we left the party a bit early, after having met about 4-5 couples. By that time, the room had become very crowded and it was hard to move around, let alone get a conversation with someone.

So we proceeded to a second swingers club. By contrast to the first one we went to, this one was darker, creepier, and skankier. Although I do love a little bit of the dirty aspect of this lifestyle, this was a bit TOO dirty, if you know what I mean. Creepy single guys, almost no couples, very poor layout for mingling. We stayed there for an hour or so. There were some couples there, but nothing really seemed to be going on other than single guys sitting around waiting for any of the couples to have sex.

So, this being a Saturday night and all, we decided to go back to the original club, and see what the Saturday crowd is like. We must say, it was much livelier! There were probably 10 couples there, many ladies wearing sexy see-through dresses. As we sat down, I noticed a short, stout Hispanic mean sitting across from us, stroking his cock, which was out of his pants. I must say, it was impressively large. I asked Mrs. Sunbuckus to look at it, but she declined. She eventually changed out of her party dress and into a sexier dress. Tight and red, it had a lace-up seam in the back that exposed a line of flesh all the way down to the ass.

After observing for a while, we made our way back to the couples room. This time, we sat in an area where Mrs. Sunbuckus and I were clearly visible. She proceeded to give me a nice, wet blowjob, really fantastic. Slow strokes, long strokes, lots of spit. It was fantastic. I returned the favor by fingering her pussy. She then climbed onto my still-hard cock and started fucking me right there. Of course by that time there was a crowd of men outside watching us, and a few couples had come into the room and, while they were having some oral sex, were not going all the way to fucking like we were. I wish they had, then the show would have been even better.

Of course, while Mrs. Sunbuckus was fucking me, I pulled up her dress, exposing her ass for everybody to see. I felt like, hey, I wanted to put on a show, and let all those other guys wish they could stick their cocks in Mrs. Sunbuckus, but only I could control who did it and when. Otherwise, I loved knowing that the other men were watching us and may even fantasize about us later while they stroked their cocks at home. After a few minutes of this, we quit and went back to the main floor to see what else was going on.

It's then that I noticed a couple that had been at the club the previous time was there again. This time with another couple. I surmised that they bring in other couples to play with.

After a bit, we went back into the couples room. I was determined to put on even more of a show. I licked Mrs. Sunbuckus' pussy, then had her suck my cock at an angle that those watching could clearly see my cock going in and out of her soft, wet mouth. I then bent her over the bed, again sideways, and took her from behind. By this time there was a sizable audience, and that got me going even more. Some more people came into the couples room. Two guys sat down and started receiving blowjobs from their partners. Then, one of them started sucking the other guy's cock. Then she had two cocks in her hands at once. It was very exciting. We would have stayed and watched some more, but I had to get Mrs. Sunbuckus back to the hotel and fuck her brains out.

We fucked very nicely at the hotel, and Mrs. Sunbuckus even surprised me and swallowed my cum.

So, what has the Lifestyle done for us so far, and why are we choosing to try it out? Well, never mind that the sex lately just between us has been great. But, there's only so many positions two people can try. Mrs. Sunbuckus wants to try two cocks at once, maybe a gangbang. And I wouldn't mind fucking some other guys' wives while Mrs. Sunbuckus enjoys their husband's cocks. Or even doing some stuff that only a group can do.

I feel comfortable with our marriage, secure knowing that my wife loves me, but that she is just curious to try new things. We have both been curious in the past, and went behind each other's backs to try those things out. I feel it's better this way if we can be honest about what we want to try and do it together instead of secretly. On top of that, thinking about all the sex has Mrs. Sunbuckus unbelievably horny, and we have been fucking like bunnies still.

I think the Lifestyle will help us explore our sexuality and fulfill fantasies that we just can't do alone. And, on top of that, it's a great way to meet a lot of nice people, something that is difficult when you have kids and other life responsibilities. It's nice to be able to talk about pleasing each other, openly, with other couples. Instead of talking about our kids, we get to be adults, talking about pleasure, our pleasure. It doesn't mean we don't love our kids, it just means we get to be adults with wants and needs apart from our kids once in awhile.

I feel that way when I get to play basketball. No one knows what I do at work, I get to be someone else, just a guy who likes to play basketball. That's how I feel in the Lifestyle. I'm just a guy who wants to have some fun with his sexy wife.

I hope the Lifestyle works out for us. Right now we're taking it slow, partly because it's hard to get time for just ourselves, and partly because we want to be comfortable with what we're doing.

So, watch for our next post. Hopefully we'll have something to talk about where we went with another couple and had some playtime.

Entering the LS

Mrs. Sunbuckus here. I am hoping that this blog will help myself and Mr. Sunbuckus explore our thoughts and feelings concerning issues and experiences we've encountered while joining the Lifestyle. And perhaps our writings will help you and your significant other determine if this is for the both of you or not. I have found that the Swingers Forum to be very useful in terms of discussion and questions with those more experienced then us. Oh, what would we do without the internet??

So, how did we decide to get into the LS? Well, I was exchanging friendly emails with a man and it came to be that I asked him if he would consider having a threesome with us. Just out of curiosity...not necessarily something that I thought would really happen but just to gauge the level of interest. I was surprised that he would be willing to. Now, I've had a lot of different fantasies throughout my life. They may have originated from pornos or erotic literature but I know what I'm interested in, curious about, and downright disgusted by. Threesomes, gangbangs, light bondage...those are what frequent my fantasies along with the situational couplings like workplace sex and the like. Now that I knew someone might be interested in a threesome with me and Mr. Sunbuckus, I asked him how he felt about it. At first, he had his doubts. I knew that I wasn't going to do anything unless he was comfortable and on board with everything. So, we would talk about this on and off. Throughout that time, the third wheel male of the picture withdrew himself from the situation but the talks between myself and Mr. Sunbuckus continued. It was as if a door had been opened and we were both curious to see what was on the other side.

As I have learned from the Swingers Forum, the LS is something that you do as a couple. You don't do it to fix a relationship. If you have a strong and secure relationship, it will help to further strengthen it. If your relationship has problems, it will magnify them and make the issues come forth and force the couple to deal with them. Even though both Mr. Sunbuckus and I have dealt with infidelity on both sides, we both love each other very much and have worked through them. Since we are still very new to the LS and have not actually had any real LS experiences in terms of soft or hard swapping, the level of trust, commitment, respect and communication has increased dramatically between the two of us. I have learned that it is crucial to talk about anything and everything with your partner to make the LS work for the both of you.

So, before you do anything LS related, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk about it. Don't just talk about it before, during, and after sex. Talk about it when it's appropriate but not always under the glow of having sex either.